Content to pay Lip Service?
Basically people are generally moved by someone’s grief. Consequently they’re unsure about what to do and yet aren’t content to just pay lip service. “Sorry for your loss”, “he was a nice dog”, or “You can always adopt another pet.”
Above all taken by surprise, it’s natural to fall back on canned phrases. After giving those platitudes we’re off the hook, right? “Elvis just left the room” cause yeah, for some that’s enough. But you and I know a thing or two about how events affect more than the one. At the present time you share a tiny little cubicle with a co-worker. They’re coughing and hacking up a lung. Under those circumstances you try hard not to breath. You cover your nose, and enact a whole litany of self-preservation scenarios. You are AFFECTED. Not infected (you can only hope and pray) affected because your entire attitude changed!
A friends’ grieving because in truth her poodle’s dying. A child’s pet was hit by a car and has to be put down. After weeks and months your co-worker still deeply mourns the loss of “Little Muffy”. How can this not affect you? Maybe you relate because you’ve been in their shoes with your own pet loss journey. Statista a statistics portal for market data reports; 2019 pet ownership in US households alone is at 67%.
The Insights we gain are powerful and maybe haunting
Many pet lovers are gonna tell you they find animals easy to love, inasmuch as they’re far less complicated than people. But that whole pet ownership concept is foreign to you. Food-for-thought, you just expelled a loud, smelly fart. How many people do you know who’ll run up to you and lick your face? Personally, I don’t know any! Notwithstanding how we classify ourselves, Pet Lover or Take’m-or-leave’m, It moves us when someone we care about grieves. Grieving adds a dimension to this person we’ve maybe never seen. We see tenderness. Maybe we see humility through their unabashed tears. Thereafter all insights we gain are powerful and maybe haunting. Like who would have guessed they’d feel so strongly about an animal? It all has to do with FAMILY. Conversely one person living with one pet is family. Families form by nature or by nurture. We’re either born into one –NATURE or we create our own and adopt – NURTURE.
Ashes 2 Essenz
I have a natural flesh and blood family. And I’ve a family I adopted and nurture. For many years when our households merged, I lived with four cats and my sister Julie’s, 3 dogs. Julie and I deeply feel the long reaching effect of bereavement on friends and families. With out a doubt we’re moved by someone’s grief. In reality we’re doing something about it. We built Ashes 2 Essenz for the bereaved and for pet lovers with pets in the here-and-now. Unquestionably, there’s tons of resources, counseling services, books and blogs available for the bereaved. What’s more important to us is creating an alternative approach to bereavement. An approach that provides an outlet for family and friends as well as the vast community of bereavers. As a matter of fact an example of this is our 5 PIECE PET BEREAVEMENT GIFT COLLECTION. We dedicate it to our lab Gypsy who passed last year. We believe, Activity and Functionality are fundamental to this wearable collection. The cornerstone of the collection is the PET LED LUMINARY. Additionally we offer “Gifts for All”, for pets in-the-here-and now. And what of those heroic Service Animals who serve Country and Community? Not-to-be-forgotten we created Customized Photo Mats that recognize and commend Military, Police, and all Service Animals and Pets.
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Pet Bereavement Resources
In building our ecommerce business Ashes 2 Essenz, my sister and I did a lot of research into pet bereavement. Moreover we’d like to share some of our recommendations. For anyone needing counseling services or just wants to read insightful books, blogs and articles please see the links below.
www.aplb.org Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement This is an award winning nonprofit, philanthropic organization. They have highly trained volunteer bereavement counselors.
www.petloss.com Pet Loss Grief Support, Rainbow Bridge & Candle Ceremony – They are comforting, unassuming and compassionate in their approach to grieving pet owners. They offer a chat room, message board, books, poetry a candle ceremony on Monday evenings.
www.selfhealingexpressions.com – Self-Healing Expressions – Guiding the Self to Healing, One Lesson at a Time – A resource that offers a holistic approach. There’s a variety of emotional, physical & spiritual healing courses for purchase. It’s conveniently downloadable and self-paced.
www.mercola.com 10 Ways to Help Your Grieving Pet’ – Noted veterinarian, Dr. Becker, gives thought provoking tips to specifically help surviving pets deal with their grief.
www.whatsyourgrief.com The Utility of Laughter in Times of Grief – What’s Your Grief
Laughter is one of the best coping mechanism for grief. This is only one mechanism for healing that this site is undeniably good for.